There’s lots of reasons why we do this and it’s different from person to person. But I think for the most part it comes down to not feeling worthy enough, good enough, our lack of ability to believe in ourselves another reason could be that we don’t feel our needs are being met. Or what about when you need to accomplish something, I can’t, it’s to hard, I’ll do it later, no one’s going to listen to me….
Now the answer to the self-sabotage is not the quick fix we all would like. It’s a lot of self-love. It’s a lot of unearthing the source of the issues. Where did they come from and why have I held on to them for so long? What am I getting out of holding on to these beliefs? Turning self-sabotage into self-love is going to take a lot of time, patience and commitment.
Some great ways to get out of self-sabotage:
Be mindful in your daily activities and where you start to struggle. What triggered it? What behaviours are you demonstrating? What daily goal have you been struggling to accomplish? Are you procrastinating?
Stop focusing on the negative, keep track of your negative thoughts, evaluate after a week of keeping track. Then look at them and ask yourself are these true?
Get yourself organized! This is an area I struggle with and am starting out with a new system that works in the 4 quarters of the year. So I will need to report back on how this turns out!
Start a new behaviour and make it a habit, it can be anything. As long as it’s positive and is moving you in the right direction.
Stop focusing so much on your end goal. Start with small achievable things each day that work towards the end goal. For example you want to make a 7-figure income this year, you first need to make $10, $100, $500 you get the picture.
Work on your self-esteem. This takes time and you need to focus on the small positive stuff first. Just like the goal setting. Small achievable steps. I will also be doing a 5-day Self-Esteem Challenge this January in my Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/GlowEssentialsTribe
Remember it’s okay to fail. “It’s okay if you try and fail. But it’s not okay if you fail to try”
Ask for help. Most people would be honoured if you asked them. You could miss out on some fantastic opportunities if you don’t.
Don’t forget to reward yourself! It’s a lot of hard work and if you have a reward for accomplishing something it will give you some more motivation.